[Question: could a moderator fish out the original question, if it would help, and add it to the end of this post for clarity.
I asked a question on ux.stackexchange.com that I believe was deleted; last I saw it live, it had three downvotes, and at very least derisive comment amounting to "You're just asking, 'How can I make the most money by testing?'", and apparently it sunk like a rock.
The question as stated was saying that I had a friend with XYZ needs and interests, and asked along a couple of dimensions what were the best UX testing programs along e.g. what ToS;DR would have to say about the contracts testers have to sign.
I've heard an ethicist lecture that he almost never hears, "I have this problem..."; what he hears consistently is "I have a friend and my friend has this problem..."; although I expect the practice to be less common among SE crowds, it's a recognized practice in the English language to say that your "friend" is in some situation than to plainly say, "I'm talking about myself."
However, I really wasn't trying to find out how I could make more money testing, for a couple of reasons. One is that I have IT and some UX skills that would ordinarily place me in a "Disqualify as soon as clearly identified" category unless the testing in question was for audiences of IT or UX usage. Note that I am not claiming excellent candidacy in either arena; I am basically claiming "at least college intern-level competency" status in both areas (my LinkedIn profile lists skills but it is beside the point).
The one Jakob Nielsen quote I've seen most quoted, and one that is highly basic, is, "One of usability’s most hard-earned lessons is that ‘you are not the user.’ If you work on a development project, you’re atypical by definition. Design to optimize the user experience for outsiders, not insiders." And that means that almost all participants in this conversation are above being good testers unless the product being tested is a wireframing tool.
I tried to ask a question that would use a concern with a female friend (and I am a guy and not seeking transgendered status) to produce a useful contribution, and it seems that more than one person saw a money-grubbing "How can I make the most money testing?" question lurking behind my seemingly benevolent façade.
Is there a good way that I could have attempted to ask about tester's interests? If there are better ways, how could I have written the question differently to have made a better contribution?